The Mating Game & How to Play It


The Mating Game


 Photo by DeLynn Hood    


If you don’t want advice, don’t read this.   

Are you longing for the perfect person to come along? Do you have a picture of  him or her in your mind ?     

A friend gave me a book that helped me along the way to my perfect mate. Yes. It really can happen and it sometimes does. Daphne Rose Kingma’s book Finding True Love has great advice and gives exercises to do to find the perfect person. I was newly divorced at the time a friend gave me this beautiful little book. One night I picked up her book and began reading. I had recently started keeping a journal and so I kept all the exercises she put in the book and I did them in order. I also used my recently learned Feng Shui expertise to get my home ready for the perfect person – not really thinking one would come along.     

I made a list of the qualities I wanted in a love relationship as suggested in the above book.   

I continued my spiritual practices of prayer, reading and meditation. I was perfectly content and not really looking for anyone. Occasionally I went with friends to “singles dances.” They were fun, but I never met anyone who was even slightly interesting to me.     

Then I met Bill and the rest is history.  Bill has all the qualities I had on my list. If the person you are interested in doesn’t have all the qualities, can you live with that?  Bill said, “You have all the qualities that are on my list.”   

My advice is probably not so different from many others, but I do look at it from another perspective.     

  1.  Don’t get physically involved until you’ve established a friendship. “You’ve got to be kidding!”   I’m not kidding. Once you’re physically involved it’s very hard to call an end to a relationship.
  2.  Don’t rush into things. Take it slow and easy.
  3. Be on the same spiritual path. This makes sense, but many think that it will all just work out if you’re in love. It usually doesn’t. Love can go as quickly as it came.
  4. Don’t think you can change the person you believe is “almost” perfect, if only…  People don’t change that much. There are always flaws. Everyone has their idiosyncrasies. Can you live with the little things? Those little things can turn into big things over time.

That’s why it’s so important to get to know the person you think you may want to spend your life with. Find out if you share the same interests and have similar views, like to do the same things and have the same spiritual philosophy. I repeated spiritual philosophy because it is such an important part of my life.   

Good chemistry can be deceiving.   

Oprah once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Oprah is a hero of mine. She is right on the mark on this one.    


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Gail Manishor, Author of
From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life

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Gardening is about enjoying the smell of things growing in the soil, getting dirty without feeling guilty, and generally taking the time to soak up a little peace and serenity.  ~Lindley Karstens,      

The Embankment



The embankment above shows our Mexican Marigold in full bloom, Bill’s favorite Cannalily in its pot and my roses below.      

There’s something about being out in the garden that soothes my soul.  Our kitchen, family room and eating area all have large windows opening into the garden. It’s a part of our home. Each plant is like a little child to me. I delight over its beauty and success and feel sad when it doesn’t look too good. When one dies, I feel bad. I found the quote below which puts it the way I feel it.      

When one of my plants dies, I die a little inside, too.  ~Linda Solegato      

Gail Manishor, Author of      

From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life
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A Butterflies Wings…

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.  ~Maya Angelou   

Butterfly on Birdbath

Photo Credit: DeLynn Hood  

It’s been said that when a butterfly moves its wings it is felt on the other side of the world.  That’s how important our thoughts, words and actions are. Imagine that if a delicate butterfly influences the world that much how much we humans can influence our world.  

I looked up quotes on butterflies and found so many beautiful ones I didn’t know which to choose. Here are some that I especially like.  

Butterflies are self- propelled flowers.  ~R.H. Heinlein  

If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.  ~Author Unknown  

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.  ~Richard Bach  

There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.  ~Richard Buckminster Fuller  

Our words are even more powerful than a butterfly’s wings. Because of the Divine Presence within each of us, our thoughts and words create our world. What we think, say and the actions we take are more important than most of us realize. Our thoughts, words and actions are the cause. An effect always follows a cause.  

Gail Manishor, author of
From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life


The Oriole’s Visit



In my study of Feng Shui I learned that it’s very important to have animal life in and around your home. Animal life adds warmth and life to our homes. I decided to encourage humming birds and butterflies as much as possible into our garden.

Soon after I moved to Carlsbad I saw the most brilliant yellow and black bird I’d ever seen in a back yard. I called my husband, Bill and we tried to figure out what it was.

The next day we went to the Wild Bird Store in Encinitas and learned it was a hooded oriole. We  immediately bought an oriole feeder and learned that they like sugar water. We brought the new feeder home and installed it near the patio so we could watch these beautiful birds. They are very watchful and more nervous than I’ve ever seen birds behave. They swoop down low, land on the feeder and look around constantly while they are feeding. The humming birds think this feeder is there for them and use it all year round. They come to the window, look in and let us know when it is empty.

Before we were married  Bill had planted a banana tree on one end of the backyard. One day I was out in the garden weeding. I heard some baby birds chirping right above me. I looked up to see where the noise was coming from. What looked like the toe end of a sock was cunningly woven and enclosed in a banana tree leaf. That’s where the chirping was coming from. Mama Oriole was having a fit as only a mother can do. I backed into the house and watched from the back door as mama came to check her babies out.

This began our relationship with the family of orioles that come back every spring and stay until October.

We also feed goldfinches who are very entertaining. We call them little acrobats because they hang upside down while they’re eating.

Gail Manishor, Author of
From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transformation



Our good comes to us at the right time and in the perfect way. Our life always develops in God’s perfect timing. When we learn to trust God and relax into the peace of Spirit, we learn to let go and allow our life to work for us. We are rewarded in a far greater way than we would have first imagined. God is Infinite Wisdom and is indwelling within each of us. That wisdom is always available to us. Know now that God wants all that is good and perfect for us.”
Gail Manishor,
From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life       

Sherrie & Bluebirds


Photo Credit: Sherrie Crow     

Sherrie with mama and papa bluebird on her hand and baby on the mailbox.    

I used to be a worrier. Through the years of study, meditation and prayer I’ve learned to trust in the process of life. I’ve learned that I am strong and capable of handling life as it comes. What is true for me is also true for you. You have all of the courage, all of the strength you need to move through whatever difficulties arise on your path. You have a deep reservoir of strength and you can trust yourself to handle what needs to be done.          

When troubles or roadblocks come up on our path, when we are worried or concerned, that is the time to put our trust in the Divine Presence, in Spirit, and know that we can now relax knowing that God is in charge. We can let go and trust in the knowledge that everything’s going to be okay.          

I know that whatever happens, God means it for good, and I now place my trust in the Divine Presence.
I have the strength and courage to go on. There is a brighter day ahead for me.

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Why I Started Blogging

Gail Manishor, Author of
From Here to Serenity, a Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life  


I recently found Penelope Trunk’s Blog and I am very impressed. She has some great tips about starting a blog. I started a blog before I even knew what blogs are all about. Now I am reading anything and everything I can about Blogging. In her Blog I found Penelope’s Guide to Blogging. She’s an excellent and entertaining writer and I’m just starting. I have always been a late bloomer. You can check out Penelope’s Blog at  Thanks, Penelope. 

“Are you sure this (Blogging) is really necessary?” I asked the more experienced authors. The answer always came back, “Yes.” 

What began as necessary work for marketing  my book has grown into an addiction of major proportions. At least once and usually twice a day I check the stats on my website, my and GailsSerenity Blog. Can you believe I even keep a log on all of these and get excited when I see one new reader coming onboard? Am I being a little excessive? You might ask.  I proudly proclaim I am now an official Bloggaholic! 

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Beauty is in the

Eye of the Beholder

What a Joy it is.


“There is a beauty of the soul that is deeper and more precious than mere physical appearance. It is that Divine Presence that lives in each one of us.”
Gail Manishor, Author of From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life 
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White Peacock


 Photo Credit DeLynn Hood                

Almost anyone would say the above peacock is a creature of great beauty. We came across him at the Leo Carrillo Ranch a few days ago. We were thrilled beyond words to see this gorgeous creature so close.  It paraded around with it’s tail feathers spread out. The sun coming from behind him made it appear as if there were stars in his outspread feathers. His name is Jax and he truly is  expressing the beauty of nature.                

Beauty is everywhere when we take the time to look around.  Beauty brings joy into our lives.             

Now that I have my beautiful new desk and have rearranged my office to better suit my work requirements I can look down on our Peace Garden.  It really is a place of  joy to me. I can’t wait to come into my office everyday and do the things I love most. I pray, meditate, dream and write.  As I sit at my new desk in my reorganized office, I am reminded of  the way Dr. Christian Sorensen begins each talk.  “What a joy it is”  Dr. Christian Sorensen says before each of his exhilarating talks on Sunday mornings at Seaside’s Center for Spiritual Living in Encinitas, CA. Isn’t that a great way to start the day?              

Gail Manishor             

Seaside Center for Spiritual Living               

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